Many programmes will tell you to make a list of what you are looking for in your perfect partner and you must focus on this list to attract what you want. Making a list is a good thing because it focusses your attention and energy, however it can also be counter productive if you use it to get fixated on one aspect of the person you are looking for.
Most people list the physical attributes that they are looking for, we’ve all heard of tall dark and handsome…but it can be quite shallow to insist a person is a certain height or has a certain hair length or must have blue eyes.
When a person is this specific I ask them questions about themselves and it often turns out that they are super critical of themselves and have levels of insecurity which means that they will attract someone who may look like their list of features and also be just as critical. People will only treat you as well as you treat yourself.
In my opinion its better to have an awareness of general physical attributes but focus more on qualities that your ideal partner must have.
Do you want them to be spiritual? Successful, sensitive? Extroverted or have as strong sense of family or want children.
Once you have written down your list of qualities and have at least 10 to 15, try to become those qualities as much as you can because like attracts like and people are united more by what they have in common than their differences.